Here’s A Very Bad Piece Of Advice
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Hey there, hero!
I just re-read an article I first came across a couple of years ago in Inc. Magazine, by Jordan Scheltgen, and it was worth reading as I welcome a whole crop of eager new VOHeroes students.
Some of those students have gotten some bad advice, and Jordan tells us why.
The bottom line: here’s why you should never “fake it till you make it.”
And just a reminder that AMA II, Electric Boogaloo is just a few days away, so ask me anything, in the comments, via email or however you like.
Hope this helps!
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Hero, it’s David H Lawrence the 17th. And I’ve said many many times that my main job in coaching people.
is to defend the success of their career, so leave them toward things that work and
Weave them off of things that don’t work and this video is about waving you off of something that really doesn’t work.
It’s bad advice when you get it. It’s bad advice when you’re executed.
I’m sure it meant well and it’s kind of cool and hip and
anyway, I read an article a couple years ago in ink magazine, but the author’s name was Jordan Shelton and
The article was all about this piece of advice that he got very early in his career used.
And it came back to bite him in the butt and the advice was.
Just fake it till you make it.
I agree with Jordan. This is not a good idea. I I tried it a few times myself cuz I thought oh, well if that’s the way the
big boys play the game. Yeah, let’s do that early on in my career and again
it did not go well and there’s a lot of reasons for this but the most mostly it’s
the authenticity that you get
lying to people or fudging things or
People need to trust you with one of the points that Jordan makes me article people need to trust you and they can’t trust
If you insist that you already know everything if you insist that there’s nothing you can’t solve if you insist that.
There’s nothing you don’t know.
People can check up on you. It’s it’s interesting the rise of the use of that information for the use of that advice.
Has coincided with a rise in people’s ability to call you on your BS, right?
And people think oh, it’s embarrassing. It’s it’s it’s bad to say, I don’t know. I remember we did the video on
I love because it when he’s asked in interviews about things that he doesn’t know. He is more than happy to say, you know,
I don’t know. I don’t know. That’s not my that’s not my Ally That’s Not My Name That’s Not My wheelhouse. I don’t know I
can find out but I don’t know enough to answer that. I love that and there’s power.
In the ability for you to say look, I don’t know.
I I haven’t been counter that yet. Here’s what I would probably do or here’s where I would go looking for answers.
That is Magic.
You know putting yourself out there and being vulnerable on purpose.
And really showing your authenticity.
You know is another point that he makes in the article the great phrase. He’s his look.
If you’re lost at sea.
We can’t fake your way to the shore.
And that says a lot, you know, you don’t want to be in a situation where you box yourself into a corner and you’re like,
oh, yeah, I can do that voice over job. Sure. I can do that.
4 year old Asian boy, of course, I can do that for that boys. That’s move course. Yes, you bet you I can you know, and
then when it comes down to doing it
You can’t do it and you don’t want to be in that situation.
Cuz then you’re embarrassed and you have to make excuses.
You do yourself an incredible disservice when you take that advice of fake it till you make it and put it to use. I’ve got
a couple of of reasons why number one you’re training yourself.
to lie to be deceptive to be
Clever in a bad way, you know you’re training yourself that that’s okay and that that will get you something.
the second piece that I want to share with you about that is that
You’re doing yourself such an amazing disservice.
Think about all of the the moments that you can learn something and then really do know.
And use that to make it.
Write like have honest authentic experience working your way through a problem rather than just claiming. You’ve never had
one or if you had one you’d fix it.
You know you just you just really hurt yourself in terms of removing opportunities.
I love the opportunities to learn and I hope you do too. So don’t do yourself that that that that dirty and and
You know remove the opportunity to enrich your experience by saying look, I don’t know, but I’m going to go find out.
I can’t wait to go find out. I mean, you’re such a joy in that.
I wanted to share that with you today. I love to know what you think.
Did you get that advice when you were young, or maybe not so young?
Did you use it?
how that turn out for you
Maybe you have a massively cool success story.
I don’t know but I think in general I’d like to hear what your experience or I think in general. Most people would.
So yeah, you’re probably right but let me know. I don’t know. There’s a comment box below this.
Especially if you’re watching on VOD rose.com, which is really where I’d like you to watch it. We house these videos on on
BO2 go go cuz they’re huge are sorry. None of you to go go on YouTube.
Because they’re huge but we want you to watch him on video eros.com because that’s where the conversation is moderated and
saying that people behave themselves. They don’t yell at each other. I only only on YouTube are the comments snarky
because that’s what people think they should do.
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The problem with “fake it til you make it” is that it assumes that “making it” is the only potential outcome. The truth is that there are many more potential outcomes, most of which are unpleasant, painful, and potentially dangerous. When the odds of the desired outcome are one out of many, it’s not a good bet.
A great video, David. Authenticity is integrity. And there’s no substitute for it!
This is absolutely spot on. Nuff said.
Thank you for spreading that!
Hi! I am responding to your request for questions for your AMA. My question is how do you mark your script if you are using a PDF scrolling behind your Audacity when recording? Thank you for your help.
I might be able to help, Mary. I recommend Foxit PDF Reader. It’s free, and there are several tools available. You can highlight, underline, add text, etc.
Thank you for your suggestion!
I was told to “fake it till you make it” years ago. It was advice given by some very successful people back in the day way before the net. One family member in particular, who became a massive mogul in the entertainment industry, said not to tell people you don’t know stuff and just go for it. It worked for him big time! I think it has changed dramatically with the advent of the internet and smart devices. Then, you couldn’t check on people the same way. Now, with a push of a button, you can check everything in a second. I personally like to train before telling people I know something because it makes me feel more confident. However, I have also just “gone for it” in the past with mixed results. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was while training to become a Master Gardener. The teacher told us we don’t need to know everything today, we just need to learn how to find the information. I use that advice now and tell people if I don’t know something I’m happy to do some research. It is less pressure and works well for me.
Steven Levitt, co-author of the Freakonomics books, once told his co–author Stephen Dubner on the Freakonomics podcast that the three hardest words to say in the English language were, “I don’t know.” What you’ve shown me, David, is that they can be the most powerful. They can move from ignorance to expertise. Thanks.
This is a great way to look at it. Taken directly from the book “The Tricycle Way.” Great read!
“Fake it till you make it was an expression that caught on as
a therapeutic technique to boost the confidence of athletes.
It allowed them to experience the feeling of having already
reached their goal, which, in turn, motivated them and helped
them realize their dream.
But the expression has been misused, leading people to
fake their way through life. They adopt it as their ticket to get
whatever they want. But the fact is, it’s unlikely to further
their life or career.
Leading a fake life creates risk and worse — massive
amounts of stress. If people find out, it can permanently damage
your reputation and even destroy whatever you’ve built.
Stop and consider — is that worth it?”
This is a great perspective on a phrase that is heard and used so often. Love the videos.
Yes, I was given that advice once and the difficulty behind it was there’s no “experience” to identify with. The best reads happen when there’s an interconnection which evokes some kind of emotion. I was practicing a script with the coach once, and it was a script about a heinous crime. Now I never committed a heinous crime, however he had me think about any event in my life that would give me the same kind of terror in my heart towards a crime of the nature of which I was reading. I thought immediately about an event that happened when I was a child and how it terrified me. I was able to read that script and give that same emotion even though I never experienced what was going on in the script. You can’t make it till you fake it with something like that.