The Difference Between Mansplaining and Advice?

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Hey there!

I’m pretty sure I was just put in my place by a stranger, after she’d asked for some advice.

Now, I need your advice to tell me if I need remedial training.

Hope this helps!

David

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  1. There are multiple unfortunate things wrong in this scenario. The first is that it’s very hard for a person reading an e-mail to get that nuance of tone and intention.
    The second is that you were specifically asked follow-up information and that was why you logically assumed this person wanted some detail.
    On the one hand, we’re taught that if you created a bad feeling with someone, it doesn’t matter if that was your intent–what matters is that you acknowledge their feelings and apologize for it having happened.
    But on the other hand, this sounds like someone who was either disappointed that you didn’t tell them what they wanted to hear, or overwhelmed by all this information that didn’t match the expectations and thus misinterpreted your reasons as criticisms of her choice.