The Guaranteed Way To Completely Avoid Criticism
How does it feel to be criticized? Even when you invite it, it’s still sometimes hard to take. You say, “I welcome your comments,” and when someone does…it still stings a bit.
I recently heard a speaker, with a quote he attributed to Aristotle, lay out the three things you need to do to never feel the pain of a critical comment.
Here they are in a nutshell. Oh, and here’s who actually said it.
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Hope this helps!
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hey there it’s David H Lawrence the 17th
and the other day I put out a video
talking about how big groups often
increase the possibility that somebody
is going to criticize your idea sort of
you know give you a devil’s advocate
view smaller groups are better by
yourself is better dreaming on your own
is better and I got some great great
questions and I’m going to talk about
those questions in just a moment but I
wonder how it feels to have that
criticism made vocal made public given
to you even if you say you know I invite
your comments invite your invite your
criticism give me your ideas when
somebody does criticize you how does
that feel consisting a little bit even
if you’ve asked for it even if you said
I welcome your comments and criticism it
still hurts sometimes when people give
you even constructive criticism and the
other day I heard a speaker addressed
this and he attributed it to the the
philosopher Aristotle so I went looking
for it just to make sure I was gonna get
because that’s what I do I want to make
sure I get it right
so I went looking for and I kept using
Aristotle in the search and it turns out
Aristotle didn’t say this at all but
what was said was if you don’t want to
then do nothing say nothing and be
pretty good advice we’ll talk about it
in just a second but it turns out it
wasn’t Aristotle that said it there was
a man by the name of Elbert Hubbard that
was a writer in the late 1800s and in
this I found this by the way on us on a
great little site called quote
investigator com it’s my new favorite
site and basically it’s kind of like the
Snopes of of attribution like when you
hear a great saying and it says you know
William Henry Hudson or whatever it says
if you go to quote investigator they’ll
actually tell you whether or not that
attribution is true and they do the
research there’s some guy who’s got an
even bigger job than I do and he and his
staff does the research and figures it
out anyway this guy named Albert Hubbard
wrote a series of short essays titled
little journeys to the homes of American
statesmen where he interviewed people
that were popular and as elected
officials as politicians as statesmen
etc and he wrote a piece about an
abolitionist politician William H Seward
who you might remember from Seward’s
folly that was the purchase of Alaska he
noted that he was the target of an
and Hubbard suggested in that writing
that one must be able to brave censure
and threats and criticism and danger to
live a full and meaningful life and
that’s really what that phrase is all
about if you don’t take any risks you
don’t do anything say anything or be
anything then you don’t have to worry
about being criticized and that’s kind
of the message for today but what he
really said was something much more
poetic what he said was if you would
escape moral and physical assassination
do nothing say nothing be nothing Court
obscurity for only in Oblivion does
safety lie kind of like that it’s kind
of hard to roll off the tongue in the
middle of a sort of a casual speech but
it’s really interesting and then that
was in 1898 and then in 1909 he came to
my hometown of Cleveland Ohio and he
delivered a lecture that was covered by
the Plain Dealer my beloved newspaper
The Plain Dealer which I delivered for I
don’t know six years as a paperboy in
Cleveland and journalist said this is
what he said directly if a man is alive
if he’s tapping the reservoirs he is
sure to meet defeat he’ll be knocked
he’ll be misunderstood laughed at and
perhaps called a foe to society
who doesn’t want to be knocked and
laughed at I give this recipe do nothing
say nothing be nothing go in your hole
and pull your hole after you and put up
a sign not at home if any man follows
this recipe I assure you he will never
get turned down
so now that we know who said this and
now that we know that it was an
Aristotle Thank You Elbert Hubbard
you gotta wonder if it’s even possible
for the kinds of jobs that we you and I
have selected to do because in today’s
society even if you’re not an actor or a
voice talent or a marketer or somebody
who’s teaching or any of the things that
I’ve chosen to do
no matter what you do you are open to
criticism you’re open to comments on
social media you’re open to pushback
you’re open to somebody saying well that
was a whole bunch of nothing you know
I actually was glad that that was a
comment that was made because it
Illustrated a couple of things
Illustrated that for him my stuff wasn’t
right it Illustrated that to him
and it also Illustrated once again the
sort of dismissive anonymous hey I can
post on the internet so I will post on
what do you think of that huh what are
gonna do about that pal it you know we
have this this attitude today that we
never had before
right I was talking about it the other
day with the video that I talked about
with Kevin O’Leary
you know that social media has changed
everything about how we communicate in a
business setting you know in a support
versus not support setting so I’m hoping
that you have the strength to risk
negative comments if you do great I’d
love to hear about it in the comments
below and if you don’t I’d love to hear
about that in the comments below if you
really hate when people give you
criticism even if it’s constructive I’d
love to know that
so wherever you’re watching this video
let me know in the comments below and
know that to celebrate a hundred
episodes coming up here soon I’m gonna
be holding a virtual AMA what’s an AMA
David an AMA is an ask me anything
session but I’m gonna hold it virtually
all you need to do is know that if
you’ve asked a question in any of the
first 99 videos that’s really good
really juicy I’m gonna answer it
hopefully in the hundredth video I’m
gonna try to answer as many as I can I
don’t want it to spill over into a
second video unless it’s really well
received and then I want to do 90 of
them and then you can also heal me email
me your questions at david lawrence at
gmail.com and just put in the subject
line and a question so I know that it’s
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even even how I make these videos the
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You are up to 84 videos…and I have not missed one yet. Good content. I figured if you resolved to make 365 videos this year, I would resole to watch all 365. My job is certainly easier than yours, most of the time…
With that in mind, I would like to say that I believe I was indirectly criticized a few videos back, and thought I would bring it up based on todays topic. I made a choice not to post anything in the comments of that specific video because, like the old saying goes, “It would have been like trying to teach a pig to sing…it’s a waste of time, and it annoys the pig”, so I decided not to comment for fear of more backlash and criticism.
Here’s the indirect criticism I received , and it’s certainly not an isolated conversation just amongst commenters on your video, it’s a wide spread topic among VO talent.
FIVERR, and anyone who would sell their services (at poverty level rates) and devalue the entire VO marketplace, is an (insert your own negative expletive here). As one VO person I saw on YouTube said “It makes my blood boil”.
I wanted to clarify why I do work on Fiverr, and possibly shine light on my different perspective of the platform.
I work full time in VO. With over 20 years voice and production experience, including 15 years Corporate Production Director for a group of radio stations, I do quite well financially with VO work. Memberships on four of the top P2P sites, and my other private contacts, keeps me quite busy (mostly auditioning, but you know that game). I provide VO services on Fiverr as time allows these days. Yes…I said it! I provide my services there….and that makes me a bad person?
I signed up for Fiverr some time ago and was hired to do a few jobs here and there. No big deal. Just filling extra time and making a few extra dollars. Really kind of odd jobs…but I never thought to put the pieces together.
It wasn’t until I was approached by a teacher, who was providing a service to her classroom in Brazil, that it became clear to me that the perspective people have for what Fiverr is might not take all the information into account.
The school teacher (who teaches English) was putting together a class course and needed a General American VO for the project. The teacher explained to me that although the money I was asking was not too much, the cost was 4X more for her (3.78 percent) because of the exchange rate…and then the light went on. Fiverr is mostly made up of people from outside the USA, working and selling their services on a whole different financial scale and mindset. People who’s weekly wage we probably spend on Starbucks in a week.
I’ll tell you what I did. I did the job for the school in Brazil for $20 (about 100 words). To that teacher, that was about $75.00. Imagine, my voice will be helping to teach children to speak English in a classroom in Brazil. I volunteered to do the rest of the chapters at $5 each. It will take me about 10 minutes to record and upload each time. $30 an hour if you break it down. Lot’s of people would love to make $30 an hour across the USA that do do jobs way tougher than VO work.
Just so you know, for my private clients, and on the other platforms, I won’t voice anything for less than $100. I’m no Don LaFontaine or Paul Frees, but I charge appropriately to those who CAN afford it.
Let’s face it, we’re kinda spoiled. Not everyone in the world has what we have. One thing for sure they DON’T have is the General American voice that I can provide for so many projects all over the world. So I choose to share my talent.
A girl I produced a voiceover for in Norway, who was doing a “Bee Conservation” video project for school, got an inexpensive (but not cheap) VO from me. She was more than happy to provide me with a copy of her finished project…and it was REALLY good. She put her whole heart into it. An awesome feeling to be a part of that project.
I would respectfully ask people to put down the pitchforks and torches when it comes to all of us Monsters who would dare provide services on Fiverr, and take another look at that world marketplace with a different perspective. Maybe not criticize the platform so much. After all, there are bigger Dragons to slay, and I don’t believe the platform was created with the USA VO marketplace in mind (I’m not that myopic), but I could be wrong about that. I’m also certain Fiverr has received plenty of criticism…just like everything, and everyone does.
Now, as often as I can, I hire people on Fiverr to do small jobs for me. Little photoshop projects and the like, because these are people who need the income. The jobs get done quickly, and done well. I also have the option to give them a nice tip for a job well done. I don’t know how else a person from Bangladesh could ever collaborate with me on a project if not for the Fiverr platform.
Just some thoughts. Damn the torpedos.
THAT, ladies and gentlemen, is how to post a comment!
Thank you so much for laying that all out. I’d never thought of the second- or third-world countries that will likely not be able to afford anything remotely close to SAG-AFTRA rates. And you’re specific with who you offer your Fiverr rates to.
May I talk about this post in one of the videos? I don’t want to embarrass you by doing so.
Great post Jamie. Now I want to go on fiverr if for nothing else but to help someone who can really use the help. I feel fortunate in life that I have had the oportunity to record audiobooks and if I can help someone using my voice then what the heck. Well thought out post.
Yes. It is just fine to talk about, and comment on. I appreciate very much that you took the time to read my comment, and your kind words. Thank You David!!!