13309: The Biggest Of The Three Big Fears

Raw transcript:

So, I just finished doing a live stream
on Facebook, on YouTube, on LinkedIn.
Those are my channels. Those are my
peeps.
About a subject that I’ve I’ve dealt
with a number of times, but always bears
repeating. And that is the big three
fears that we have when we start
something new. And that third fear being
an unexpected one, it was a good
reminder. And I’ve got some thoughts on
fear in general. on that big third fear
which I’ll reveal when we come back on
this episode of the VO Heroes podcast.
So when I share with people uh my
thoughts about fear which we all have
especially when we’re just about to get
started on doing something new
uh I talk about the big three the big
three fears that we have and the fact
that the first two are kind of
understandable the third one a little
unexpected. So the first big fear that
we have is the fear of the unknown. It’s
understandable, reasonable. You know, we
don’t know what’s coming down the pike.
We don’t know whether we’re going to be
uh facing things that we’ve got some
knowledge about. We’ve got some some
traction in, maybe some hints about how
to deal with. We don’t know. Fear of the
unknown. Number one. Number two, fear of
failure. Fear of not just what we don’t
know, but what we can’t do. And again,
very reasonable, understandable. Um, and
then the third big fear is actually kind
of odd. It’s the fear of being
successful.
A fear of not failure, not necessarily
not doing well, not understanding. Maybe
you’ve accepted that that’s going to be
the case, which is what my advice would
be. Yeah. Don’t we don’t worry about
being fearful of failing cuz you’re
going to fail. There’s going to be
missteps along the way and there’s going
to be things that you don’t know. So,
you can safely get rid of those first
two as being absolutely valid. They’re
going to happen. There’s going to be
things that you don’t know and there’s
going to be things that you don’t do
very well at.
But fearful of being successful?
Really, David? Yeah. Because then
everything changes. All the rules
change. If you fail and you’re not
successful and and you don’t know what’s
happening, well, that was to be expected
and you’ve got a reasonable excuse for
giving up if you want to or you know
putting it off one more time into the
future. But if you’re good at it, if
you’re successful at it, if you like it
and you have a knack for it and you have
some knowledge from maybe working with a
mentor or who knows. Oh, well, hold on a
second. Now there, Bessie, the rules are
changing on me. Wait, what? You know,
now I don’t have a reasonable excuse for
giving up. I’m good at this. I like
this. This is something I’m being a
little bit successful at this. This
might just work. This might just be
something I can do and do well. Oh,
that’s wow. What am I going to do then?
So, again, you have these fears, right?
And that fear of being successful isn’t
necessarily something that we usually
put into words in our head because it
doesn’t make sense.
A fear of something good,
you know, uh I love when Rita Rudder
says, you know, she she has this joke
that she does. She says, “A friend of
mine was in labor for 38 hours.
I don’t even want to do something that
feels good for 38 hours.”
I love that joke. And I and I love the
notion of something really positive
could be something that causes a little
anxiety, a little fear.
So I wonder sometimes, especially when
you get some some wins under your belt,
some early wins, you know, in the study
of voice over, understanding certain
categories of voiceover work or putting
the gear together and seeing, oh, this
actually does work and I can do this,
you know, understanding how our software
works and and how, oh, that’s pretty
simple. Okay, I got that. That’s kind of
nice. What does that do to change your
rules? So be aware of that big third
fear and know I would love for you to
experience the joy of that fear becoming
realized that yes you are good at
something that you can be great at
something that you can be professional
at something that you can make money at
something and for me that something is
performance voiceover acting narration
things that I teach I love that at least
gives me some some great stuff to work
with and And I see it happening all the
time with my students. I wonder if it’s
happened for you. I wonder if it’s
something that you’ve experienced and
you’ve gone, “Oh, wait a minute. All
those rules out the window, right? Let
me know in the comments below.” If
you’re on vioheres.com, that’s a great
place to put your comment. Let me know
what’s going on there. Everybody’s sane
and and they’re nice to each other and I
demand that and that’s what I’d love.
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this concept. That’d be great. I’m David
H. Lawrence the 17th. I thank you so
much for watching and for listening and
I will see you in the next episode of
the VO Heroes podcast.

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