0057: Are You Willing To Let Go Of What Doesn’t Work?

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when you look at the processes the
strategies the tactics the things that
you use to get ahead in life to succeed
in life
we’re sometimes presented with things
that work and sometimes we’re presented
with things that don’t work my question
in this episode is are you willing to
let go
of those things that don’t work this is
a pretty deep question and we’re going
to get into it in this episode of the vo
heroes podcast
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for the five gajillionth time let me
share with you my definition of success
do more of what works
and less of what doesn’t and when you
take that on its face it’s pretty simple
yeah you know increase the good stuff
decrease the bad stuff great but
inherent in that are a couple of things
number one knowing the difference
between things that actually are working
and things that actually aren’t working
for you
understanding that
yes there are times when things that
aren’t working could work
if you make an adjustment
and then there are times when things
that aren’t working aren’t working
because they simply don’t work
and
at that moment
that to me is a moment of truth for
actors for voice talent for performers
in general for people in general
as they pursue
certain things in their life is this
actually working
and what do i do
if it isn’t
now there’s a couple of paths
first you can get more information you
get better training you could get more
practice at something you could take a
look at where
it stops working and maybe look at why
it stops working
or when you get to the point where it’s
like yeah no it just simply doesn’t work
for me
this just isn’t working
being bold enough
to let go
of what doesn’t work i think one of the
mistakes that people make all the time
is they’re like a dog with a bone they
simply can’t let go it has to work i
know it’s gonna work well if it doesn’t
is there shame
or do you feel like a failure when you
go yeah enough of that i can tell you
this
to me that’s a golden moment i can
worry about one less thing
i look at it completely differently if
it just simply isn’t working nothing i
can do to make it work i’ve tried a
reasonable amount of time without
getting crazy about it to make it work
and it still doesn’t
or i can see very clearly that it’s not
going to work for me because of a
particular reason i have absolutely no
reluctance whatsoever
to simply let go of it it’s okay
i don’t look at it as a failure
if i did look at it as a failure it
would just be a learning experience as a
failure not as like there’s something
inherently wrong with me
but
then i can i’m free to move on to
something
else some other option that may work and
test that
so the question is are you willing to
test those things
that
either don’t work or you think are
working but you’re not quite sure and if
that test fails
are you willing to simply say okay
that’s great i learned something here
i’m done with this i’m going to move on
to some other option
i think sometimes we get wrapped up in
the whole notion of if we admit that
this doesn’t work we made a mistake
we’re not good enough we get those
limiting beliefs about
i’m not a good judge of what works and
what doesn’t you are
you are a good judge you really are
i just did a podcast uh guest appearance
and the host asked me when we were done
uh you know do you know
why you’re able to take a look at these
things pretty clearly and say yeah this
works and this doesn’t i’m like you know
i’m willing to test it
and if it fails the test i’m willing to
let go of it i’m wondering if that’s
something that you’re able to do if it’s
something that you want to do if it’s
something that’s hard for you to do
do me a favor
let me know in the comments below what
you think and by below i mean on
voheros.com
uh where this conversation is
sane
and uh you know calm and productive
hopefully
i’d love to know i’d love to know
i’m fascinated by all these things i’m
david h lawrence the 17th i thank you so
much for watching and for listening
and i will see you in the next episode
of the vo heroes podcast
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