13187: You Might Want To Listen To What Jodi Picoult Has To Say
Hey there, hero!
This episode is a simple reminder that some data is visible, and some data is hidden.
You likely know who your haters are – and you might not know how many people love you.
Is this something you might be missing on a fairly regular basis? The people who love you for who you are, as opposed to those who don’t? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.
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Raw transcript:
Raw transcript:
they say that negative feedback is often
much more available and obvious and
treacherous to our mindset than
something supportive something lovely
and author Jodi Picoult and I have something
to say about that in this episode of the
vo Heroes
podcast Jodie Picoult is a beloved author
uh she pronounces her last name Pico
like Pico Deo she said that in a Tik Tok
video so jod Pico says sometimes you
don’t see the millions of people who
accept you for what you are all you
notice is the person who
doesn’t the one person who doesn’t makes
more impact on you than all of the
people who you don’t even know love you
for who you are uh support you want you
to continue on with your journey and
want to help you with that journey and
it’s so
true it’s so true it’s invisible
sometimes the
loveliness that your followers your
friends your family your clients your
peers in the business uh other actors
other voice Talent other authors have
for you because there’s no requirement
or urgency about them saying I
appreciate you out of the blue but there
certainly are these dipwads who will
take as much time as is humanly possible
and be as forceful as they can to show
off how clever they are about how much
they despise you about how much they
hate you about how wrong you are and I
just want you to look at the numbers if
you would because the number of people
who do that so so small compared to the
huge number of people who are just fine
with you in fact they’re your fans you
know we don’t get that reinforcement on
a regular basis and it would be nice if
we did but we don’t but it is something
that you can remember always remember
the haters are in the minority unless
you’re you know you’re a
psychopath you know uh but but for the
most part the the the rest of us we have
far more people who love us than don’t
love us and it’s important to remember
that especially when you’re sitting
there going oh what did I do what am I
doing how am I handling this what’s
going on did I make a mistake there did
I do something right there if I did
something right how come I didn’t get
reinforcement on that you know what I
mean there’s nobody standing around
waiting to catch you doing something
right but there are plenty of people and
some of them become very vocal who are
capable of catching you doing something
that they consider to be wrong wrong and
they’ll tell you about it especially
with the anonymity of the
internet but know that you are loved
know that you are supported if you’re a
member of one of my memberships or one
of my communities or you’re watching
this you’re supported I’m doing this to
support you and I want you to know that
I can’t wait to see what you’re going to
do on your journey I’m I’m in the big
group I I I claim team you right so just
know that that’s the case and that the
few times that somebody calls you out
and decides you’re not good enough for
them far in the minority use
that make that fuel for
you uh let me know what you think about
this in the comments below do you
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David H Lawrence 17th I thank you so
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Thank you for this! A crucial reminder.
Makes all the sense in the world when viewed through an evolutionary lens: of course we’d by hyper vigilant about criticism—getting kicked out of the tribe used to mean certain death.
You touched on something huge, too, when you described the haters hating on something *they perceive* us doing “wrong.” It’s all just opinion…
… and more often than not, that opinion is based on incomplete and biased information (and frequently coming from a place of low self-worth).
Happy, self-actualizing people aren’t sitting on their phones tapping out hate comments on the Internet. They’re too busy doing The Work!
I appreciate you!!
Dipwads!!!
Ahahahahahahahahaha!
This video immediately made me think of a person I know, who I’ve considered a friend for most of my life, who I’ve only interacted with through text and email in recent years. In those interactions he’s shown nothing but bitterness and resentment toward me. I get the impression that he has an unhealthy definition of friendship and I’ve dared to not live up to his expectations in that regard, so all I get is negativity from him. I think about this far too often, when, in fact, so many other people treat me so well, people who seem to have healthy definitions of friendship. But I have a hard time not thinking of the one person who has nothing good to say about me.
I’m so sorry that he treats you like that – and that it’s so top of mind. I had to remove someone from my life for that very reason.
Thanks David. I have considered doing that as well.
In the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz the 2nd agreement states : ” Don’t take anything personally.” For him, that means the good as well as the bad.
It’s interesting that, when I direct, I caution actors to not judge the character they are playing as you cannot effectively play someone you judge. In truth, everyone is just trying to get their needs met by any way they deem necessary. It’s those of us on the outside that judge it a good or bad thing.
I often give good advice, that I forget to apply to myself. Thank you, as always, for the timely perspective.
Thank you David!!!