13201: You Don’t Yell At A Bud Because It Isn’t A Flower…Yet
Hey there, hero!
Ever get frustrated when you first start learning something and it’s touch to get the hang of it? You know, you want to gain a skill and it’s just not coming and you start to lose patience?
How about when you’re showing someone else how to do something and they just aren’t grasping the fundamentals? Do you get a little annoyed?
I see it happen in Facebook groups that “serve” our performer family, and it makes me sad.
A little patience, some grace, a bit of remembering where we all were when we first started…that might be useful.
How long is your fuse when learning and/or teaching? Do you “yell at a bud” sometimes? How do you feel when you’re on the receiving end of that yelling? Let me know in the comments below.
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Raw transcript:
you don’t yell at a bud because it isn’t
a flower
yet now you would think that was uh
something that some very very famous
philosopher once said and you’d wonder
what it was all about turns out somebody
very different than that said that but
it’s just as effective let’s talk about
that in this episode of the vo Heroes
podcast you don’t yell at a bud because
it isn’t a flower
yet uh I want to talk to you about that
but uh I think you’d be surprised as to
who that’s credited to Jason Alexander
yeah George castanza and millions of
other characters that are awesome he
said that once and it really can be
helpful especially when you’re pursuing
upleveling your skill sets in something
or just learning something new for the
first time uh you can get frustrated you
can get
um uh slowed down bogged down by the
details not understanding how everything
kind of fits together and things can
turn negative and I just want to give
you uh the suggestion that you can go
easy on yourself some things are not
easy to learn some things are a snap to
learn sometimes the flower blooms almost
immediately and sometimes you know it’s
hibernating for the winter just be easy
on yourself be easy easy on others if
you’re teaching others as well if you’re
if you’re trying to get somebody to do
something and it’s just not sticking
with them go easy on them as well um but
for yourself take take a
moment understand that there’s just some
key or Keys missing from making it all
make
sense and give yourself some Grace
you’re a human being and you’re going to
figure it out you are it’s going be
great um you don’t yell at a
bud just because it isn’t a flower yet
thank you Jason Alexander what are your
thoughts on that are you sometimes hard
on yourself because you’re not getting
something just as quick as you need it
to be you get frustrated with others
when it’s clear to you what’s going on
but it’s not clear to them I don’t know
let me know in the comments below I’d
love to find out what your thoughts are
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with uh another actor or voice Talent OR
writer who wants to uh wants to uplevel
their life and gets frustrated along the
way I’m David H Lawrence the 17th I
thank you so much for watching and for
listening and I will see you in the next
episode of the vo Heroes podcast
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Hi David–
Very well said. Patience is something I work on every day. My late father was a yeller.
Great man, but tough sometimes to be around. He would take my brother and I to
a “Workday with Dad” (plaster/drywall business) when we were on holiday break from school, and it was constant yelling to run out to his truck to find a certain tool he needed. I had no idea what he wanted and often returned with the wrong one! That would start an avalanche of yelling from him. (much of it needed to be censored!). When he taught me to play golf as a boy growing up in Ohio, he yelled at me a lot for bad swings or lost golf balls. He meant well. I think it was how his parents brought him up. Hard-nosed and old school. Daily, I try real hard to be patient. Patience is indeed a virtue. When I send out VO marketing emails, I tell myself, “Be patient. You’re planting seeds. It takes time for them to sprout.” I’ve had customers come to me months after I sent them an email.
One of my pet peeves is folks who act all put out and exasperated because I ask them to repeat what they said. Much of the time they’re mumbling and not speaking up. “Hey, don’t give me that stink eye! How about working on your diction buddy.” Patience I must monitor daily.
Yes! Patience and commitment have become rare superpowers in the age of TikTok and instant gratification (I struggle with this as much as anyone).
The journey so often *is* the destination… and the skills we develop in the process support our next ventures going that much more smoothly. Thank you for this salient reminder 🙏🏻
Oh yes, this strikes home. I have a tendency to think that because I understand, intellectually, how something works that means I can just walk up to it and do it. Not necessarily, in reality, not often at all. And I am hard on myself when I bump into challenges because I, apparently, think I should be able to ace something I have never seen or done before. Maybe my bud needs more water and tenderness….
This was a lovely reminder for me to give myself some grace as I take everything I’m learning in. The community at VO Heroes was a perfect example of support and encouragement as I shared my 1st audition with them. Grateful for everyone here.
I’m definitely hard on myself when not getting something right away if I have a strong, vested interest in it. I’m much more forgiving when I teach martial arts and someone just isn’t getting something.